Did you notice or experience the fact that to have an approved romantic relationship you had to be baptised, and for men often you would be expected to be a min servant or elder, or at the very least reaching out in the congregation. I'm sure others had other rules such as being a pioneer or something. Its another area where you are pressured into conforming to a certain ideal - not a scriptural one but an organisational one. And yet the NT never said we'd all be the same, some would have one strength and others something else, and the least of us was essencial to the whole (annointed ones of course!).
CS 101